25 Of 365 (366) For 2012

[All credit to Sol Marrades a.k.a. Fotosol, whose lovely picture may be found here]

“‘We’ve got to have rules and obey them.

After all, we’re not savages.

We’re English, and the English are best at everything.'”

[ William GoldingLord of the Flies ]

14 thoughts on “25 Of 365 (366) For 2012

  1. I give you a lot of credit for doing and studying law. I ‘kind of’ have an authority issue myself (although I’m extraordinarily law abiding!) and struggle with our (humanity’s) ability to self regulate versus regulate through power over. As in, once I nearly got myself kicked out of jury duty for being overly philosophical and questioning the authority of the court, but then realized I might be the only agent of reality among my peers, so I acquiesced– only to then be benched as an alternate. You’re studying more to do with contract law though correct?

    Another fun anecdote for you:
    I explained Hammurabi’s code to my kids the other day because they were causing a bit of harm to each other; it didn’t quite work out the way I planned because they interpreted it to mean they get to “payback” each other for the random elbow or misplaced footstep. I haven’t quite got them up to speed with Ghandi yet; It’ll surely be on the rotation for social lessons.

    “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.” -Mahatma Gandhi,

    • Thank you – yes the specialisation is primarily american contracts (but it does involve a bit of family law) – but you do end up a bit of everything. The only thing I rarely come in contact with is criminal law (which I am extremly grateful for and really admire Phil for chosing that field – I couldn’t do it! Might be interesting on paper, but the real world’s an entierly different story – scary, sad and frustrating depending on your client)

      The philosophy part is strong during law school (principle of law etc), but obviously not as important in the real world – also we (basically) don’t have jury systhem in Germany, which has advantages and disadvanteges but I myself find favorable. You do have understand that the rule of d.a. in Germany isn’t merly that of a prosecutor though. He’s also (to a certain extent) the defendents attoerny. Whereas the attoerny is also the defender of the German judicial systhem (read: his function isn’t limited to defending the defendant, but also making sure that legal procedures adhere to the German constitution.). The judge is also not really a “referee” between attoerny and defendant, but more in charge of guaranteing the adherence to the German constitution. Obviously he has the last call in the material decision of the case, but his responsibility goes beyond that. What I mean is, that it’s less a three sided trial, but more a team of three people working towards the same goal. They just have different opinions as to how it should be attained and the judge is basically the team leader making the final call. (Hope this made sense – it’s a bit complicated to explain or rather it isn’t complicated, but abstract)

      I like that you are introducing your kids to so much. How about teaching them the difference between a contract and a gratuitous promise (or even that a gratuitous promise is a contract under German law – if made according to form requierments or when fulfilled – but that might be going a bit too far πŸ˜‰ )

      Yes do teach them about Ghandi (and maybe even how that fits in with the concept of capital punishment) πŸ˜€

    • Thank you! I really liked it too (you should check out Sol Marrades Flickr Stream, which I linked to below the photo) and it just screamed “Lord of the Flies” (and quite fittingly so) – Thanks for taking the time to comment: It really means a lot πŸ˜€

    • That’s interesting: Is he a thinker? The funny thing is (and I’m not sure, if you can see this b/c I posted it in a small size) the boy on the edge of the sea was photoshoped into the picture… . You can tell if you look at his knees: The white thing is part of the waves – I actually liked that. It ment that someone wanted to add something special to the picture. πŸ˜€

      (sidenote: I had to disspam you – crazy. I don’t even know why, b/c you never ended up in my spam folder before and I definetely don’t consider you spam – If my spammers were half as witty as you I’d post their comments to my posts πŸ˜‰ )

      • I know, I am spam now. 😦 For the past two days, my comments have not been posted. I was really bummed about this one (this photo and my comment) because it became a topic my husband and I discussed. Our oldest son is very serious, He is very different, and he has seen more of the world in 22 years than most people can hope for in a lifetime, but it makes him an outsider (very detached from the average person – I have felt that way, but nothing like him – he’s angry) . . . As parents we are . . . .clueless. Apparently, spam. πŸ™‚

        • I’m sorry this photo ended up being a bummer for you 😦

          I understand how it can be difficult to be different (heck I’m different!). I can relate to that making him angry – it’s hard when you feel like you don’t belong or don’t fit in or when there’s no one who gets you. It took me until I was about 28 to find out that it was okay to be me and to find others who really thought I was the great the way I was to. In all honesty I didn’t really give anybody else a chance though.

          It will probably sound very presumptous when I say it will work itself out (and it probably is!), but I really feel strongly that it will. I guess some of us need longer to grow into who we are and into our place in the world.

          I hope the following photos make you smile though πŸ™‚

            • Whew – glad the only reason you were bummed was that you liked picture/quote combination TOO much and not the choice in picture and quote πŸ™‚

              What I ment about giving people a chance is probably more about being real & honest. I actually have a post about this in the making, but I’ll try to break it down into a few sentences (that’ll be a first!):

              – I realised early on that I was different and that being different ment you would polarise people
              – I didn’t want to polarise. I wanted EVERYBODY to love me. (big surprise, huh?!)
              – So in consequence I pretended to be someone I was not. And not just one person either. More like multiple personalities suitable for every social circle.
              – People aren’t stupid. Sooner or later you’ll be demasked and people will be put off more by the faking (and lying) than the person behind the mask
              – Also I had the tendency of hurting people who got to close to me or pushing them away (before they could do this to me)
              – I didn’t understand that though and only thought that the person behind the mask was the problem, not the masking, so the circle continued.
              – Then I met a few people (one of them being Phil – did I mention we were friends for a while, before it got romantic?) who took a closer look and even when the mask fell, tried to understand, tried to relate and didn’t run.
              – They did voice their dissapointment in my lack of trust in them to simply chance being me, but they didn’t get caught up in it. They decided to see if they could like the K. behind all of this as well and they did.
              – This gave me the understanding and also the courage to live with myself and give other people a fair chance to get to know me, which I have done ever since.
              – Obviously I’m still different and obviously I still polarise, but I have learned that the feeling of belonging or fitting doesn’t requiere quantity, but rather quality

              That’s what I ment with giving people a chance or rather learning to give people a chance.

              I’m sure this doesn’t apply to your son. What I ment in regards to him was more a question of “okay, so I’m not sure if this person get’s me. My initial reaction is no, but maybe there is something I’m not seeing. Maybe if I give them a chance to get to know me and me to get to know them, there might be more there than I think.” – But as you said that that is not his issue, it’s really obsolet now, I just wanted to clarify this before it ends up in a misunderstanding.

              No matter what his struggle is – I’m still sure he will find his way. The most interesting people I know (and the ones that are the closest to my heart) are people that are not the norm and that own it.

              Phil’s Brother Ben is the best example for this – I’ll have to write a post about him too I guess, seeing as he is an important reoccuring character in my life πŸ˜‰

  2. This is just so beautiful. I really don’t know how to express what I am feeling in words.

    The boy standing in the background, makes the picture all the more amazing!

    • I know, I thought so to. I think you should really check out his flickr stream for more inspiration, if I remember correctly, he wasn’t just a one-hit-wonder πŸ˜‰

      Funny thing is, the boy in the background is photoshopped in. Not sure if you can tell in this size I used, but the waves go through his knees πŸ˜‰ – I actually liked this, b/c it felt like artistic creation on a higher level (and a bit like Where’s Waldo?!) πŸ˜‰

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