68 Of 365 (366) For 2012

[ All credit to fuoconero7, whose lovely picture may be found here. ]


  • enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to,
  • something perfect to wear, if the employer or the date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour,
  • a youth she’s content to leave behind,
  • a past juicy enough, that she’s looking forward to retelling it in her old age
  • a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra,
  • one friend, who always makes her laugh and one who lets her cry,
  • a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family,
  • eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems and a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored,
  • a feeling of control over her destiny.


  • how to fall in love without losing herself,
  • how to quit a job, break up with a lover and confront a friend without ruining the friendship,
  • when to try harder and when to walk away,
  • that she can’t change the length of her calves, the width of her hips or the nature of her parents,
  • that her childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over,
  • what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more,
  • how to live alone, even if she doesn’t like it,
  • whom she can trust, whom she can’t and why she shouldn’t take it personally,
  • where to go (be it to her best friend’s kitchen table or a charming inn in the woods), when her soul needs soothing,
  • what she can and can’t accomplish in a day, a month and a year.

[ Pamela Redmond Satran ]